After writing this post, i feel like my words aren't saying what i feel right now, but i do feel like i need to say something.
Today i went to school, sat through a boring class, and then came home.
When i got home i logged onto my facebook, which is pretty normal. I saw one of my friends had posted that a friend from high school had just died.... When i asked who, i was told it was Ryan Alder.
from his blog:
"We’ve had a heartbreaking event in our family. Ryan and Kate and the baby were in a car accident on their way back to Utah from Oregon Thursday at about 5pm. The baby is fine, Kate was flown to a trauma center in Reno; she sustained head and internal injuries. Ryan sustained a serious head injury and died at the scene.
The accident was north of Winnemucca, Nevada. We don’t know why (sleep, distraction, etc.) but they drifted off the right side of the road, Ryan must have over-corrected as he tried to get the car back on the road, it rolled, and during the roll he sustained the fatal blow to his head. He never regained consciousness. Emergency responders did all they could but pronounced him dead at the scene about an hour and a half later. Luckily, two nurses happened upon the accident and were able to help.
Kate’s parents (Dan and Krista Doshier) are with her now in the hospital in Reno. Ron and Tracy Alder (Ryan’s parents) and Tom and Julie Dillenbeck (Ryan’s sister) are driving from Orem, Utah to pick up baby Cora in Winnemucca, on the way to Kate in Reno.
Kate is stable following surgery to stop bleeding in her brain. She has a serious skull fracture, broken bones in her neck (no spinal cord injury), cuts and bruises. The internal abdominal bleeding has stopped. She is heavily sedated now and over the next 24-48 hours that medication will be reduced to assess her condition."
My first thought was oh my gosh, he just barley got married! and i started thinking about how hard life will be for his wife, once she recovers. Ryan and his wife just recently had a baby girl, Reading through their blog i was in tears as i read about his excitement to be a daddy, and how much he already loved that little baby girl. I feel awful, which im sure is nothing compared to how his family is feeling right now.
But then I remembered who i am, and where i came from.... The things that i know. I am SO thankful for loving parents who have raised me in the gospel, and for a loving Savior who came to earth to make it possible for all of us to live with our families again. This is the only thing that can bring me some sort of peace, is knowing that someday i'll see him again, and that he will be able to live with his wife of only one year, and his brand new baby girl.
Life is so fragile, never take any moment for granted. Life the way you want to live with no regrets. Because today may be your last. Stay close to God, and remember he always loves you.
